Thursday, December 19, 2013

Five Reminders for Older-Child Adoptions

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1) Respond to your child's emotional age rather than the chronological age.
2) The child's biological family is always present. Whether they are physically in the child's life or not, they are a part of the child's history and psyche.
3) Your child likely experienced multiple parenting styles before you and thus has a complex attachment history.
4) Your child has a history that you weren't present for. Thus, there can be many emotional triggers of which you are not aware.
5) Educating yourself about trauma is essential!

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  1. This was incredibly helpful. So helpful I just posted your blog on my Twitter @QuickAdditions. I wish we would have had this knowledge before we adopted our 10-year-old. We are dealing now with finding his emotional age instead of his birth age. Do you recommend any resources to help educate myself about trauma?

  2. Thanks. Your question reminded me of something I wrote on resources for trauma education a while back. Here's the link:
    I hope this is helpful!